“I feel like I’m lifting all the heavy weights in this friendship.”
Dear Eve 6 Guy,
I have been best friends with K for 17 years. we are long distance friends. She’s in Georgia and I’m in Long Island. She’s been here a few times, but our friendship is mostly emails, texts her messages and phone calls. We used to talk every day, but as our lives got busier and the years went by, it went from a few times a week to once a week.
Our friendship is deep. She knows me that no one else does. For over a decade we have shared details of our lives and those of our children. We have been through breakups together. We’ve been talking to each other from our respective shelves.
There were times when we drifted apart, but we always came back to each other and apologized for not prioritizing our friendship. ), she has some health problems. I know she likes space when she’s very stressed, so I give it to her.
The last time we spoke she told me she was having a rough time and was sorry she wasn’t a very good friend. , I told her I was always there for her. I didn’t say anything about recent health scare or my fragile emotional state.
It’s been two weeks and I haven’t heard from her so I sent a quick text asking if she was okay. I asked them to email me to.So I did. Two and a half weeks ago. I haven’t heard anything from her since.
This isn’t the first time I feel like I’m doing something tough with this friendship. I’ve been upset about this before. However, this is the first time I feel like she is actively ignoring me, and I really think our relationship is becoming a burden to her.
I don’t want to be I’d rather end her friendship completely than be dumped by her every few weeks, but how can I approach her? Will I let her know how I feel, adding to her guilt towards us, or will it just bring her friendship to a standstill?
I feel too old for all this. I thought it would be easier if you got older friendships. I appreciate any advice you can give me.
— I feel ghosted
